“I decorate my house with things you love just in case you show up.” – Yuna, Decorate
A few months ago, while enjoying rooftop brunch with a seat perfectly close to the jazz band, found myself being probed on the most romantic thing I had ever done for someone and the greatest gesture I have experienced to date. In explaining how I believed that women may be more naturally skilled in gift giving, I mentioned my love for writing down a list of favorite things for all my loved ones to help me keep track.
“YOU’RE A LIST PERSON,” noted my prober. Caught a little off guard while simultaneously impassioned by his keen observation, I assured that, yes, in fact I am a list lover. “I find it to be the most effective way to organize my thoughts,” I explained to him. In fact, the list lover in me finds it to be some form of romantic to keep note of the things my significant other loves.
From the daily to-do list that gets scribbled on and scrunched by the end of the day, to the eternally existing notebook that records the loves as professed by my loved ones, lists are inevitably a way to remember things and fulfill things. On Valentine’s Day of this year, I picked up a book from the last bookstore, titled “Lists: To-dos, Illustrated Inventories, Collected Thoughts, and Other Artists’ Enumerations from the Collections of the Smithsonian Museum”, a fascinating read and inside look to the minds of geniuses and other famous people. In a sense, I have found that writing and keeping or tossing lists can be cathartic and therapeutic. I also keep a list of quotes, lines, sayings, positive affirmations and lyrics that touch and inspire me.
1. A few of your favorite things
2. Your hopes, your dreams, your fears that will be overcome
3. Your New Year’s Resolutions
3. The ingredients of your next batch of cupcakes
4. The stores you need to set foot in for Christmas shopping
5. The favorite places you have been
6. The “things” they mentioned they wanted
7. All the ways you love them
8. Every feeling aroused when they are near
A good date ends with dinner, but a great date ends with breakfast…
Even that brunch conversation in of itself opened the opportunity to remember some key experiences and ideas from those who answered the questions. My prober revealed that ultimately, breakfast in bed, would be a grand gesture for him to remember. It wasn’t too long after this conversation that I had stumbled upon the following words: A good date ends with dinner, but a great date ends with breakfast…